“You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.” ― Eckhart Tolle
In the midst of life’s challenges and uncertainties, it’s often easy to believe that finding peace requires rearranging the circumstances that surround us. We might think that if only we had a different job, a different relationship, or a different lifestyle, then we would finally find a sense of peace. But the truth is, true peace isn’t found by rearranging our external circumstances; it’s found by realizing who we are at the deepest level.
Self-awareness is the key to unlocking our inner peace. It’s about understanding our wants and needs, and having the courage to align our actions with our true desires. It’s about discerning what brings us joy and fulfillment, and choosing to let go of those things that cause sadness and stress.
I can relate to this on a personal level. During my fertility journey, I was consumed by stress and unhappiness. I longed to conceive my second child, but my ability to do so was hindered by the weight of my worries and fears. It was when I started to prioritize my own mental health and well-being that I began to see a shift. I focused my energy on activities that brought me joy, learned to set boundaries when necessary, and avoided people and activities that did not serve me. Practices such as journaling, prayer, gratitude, and spending time in nature helped guide me on my journey to discovering inner peace.
Through journaling, I found solace in pouring my thoughts onto paper, releasing any pent-up emotions and gaining clarity. Prayer and meditation became my daily companions, allowing me to connect with a higher power and find a sense of peace beyond my own understanding. Deep breathing became a powerful tool in moments of anxiety, grounding me in the present moment. Self-care became a non-negotiable, as I realized the importance of nourishing my mind, body, and soul.
But perhaps the most transformative practices were forgiveness, acceptance, and gratitude. I learned the power of forgiving myself and others for any perceived shortcomings or mistakes, and embracing the beauty of imperfection. I learned to accept the things that were out of my control, and trust in the journey unfolding before me. And above all, I learned to practice gratitude, finding joy in the smallest of blessings and appreciating the simple moments that brought light to my days.
Spending time in nature became a sanctuary where I could reconnect with my inner self and find serenity amidst the chaos. And through it all, I discovered the importance of loving myself fiercely. It is in cultivating self-love that we truly blossom and radiate our authentic selves to the world.
I encourage you to embark on your own journey of self-discovery and inner peace. Take a moment to reflect on who you are at the deepest level, and listen to the whispers of your heart. Embrace self-awareness and make choices that align with your true desires. Explore different practices such as journaling, praying, meditating, and deep breathing to find what resonates with you. Prioritize self-care, forgiveness, acceptance, and gratitude, for these are the stepping stones to guide you towards the peace you seek.
Remember, finding peace is a transformative process. It may not happen overnight, but each step you take towards self-awareness and inner peace brings you closer to the life you’ve always envisioned. Trust in your journey and have faith in your own resilience. You are capable of creating the happiness and peace you deserve.
I conceived my daughter naturally after failed IVF and many failed IUI’s. Take care of yourself, believe in yourself, and never lose hope.
